Sleeping With Alice.

I think Alice waited until we told everyone we know that she was a “good sleeper” before she started to become a bad sleeper.

Since she was born, she’s loved sleeping.

She slept a lot.

A lot, a lot.

She slept through the night pretty much immediately.

She took pretty long naps in the morning and the afternoon.

She slept off and on throughout the day.

Like Tom, she mostly slept in her swing in her room — but she SLEPT and that’s pretty much all we cared about.

About a month ago, we started putting her in her crib to get her used to it.

She wouldn’t sleep as long in there, but she’d sleep, so we were confident that we’d be able to transition her away from the swing and into the crib.

And then two weeks ago, she decided her sleeping options pretty much…


She HATES the swing.

She HATES her crib.

She HATES her room in general.

And she HATES us for trying to make her sleep in there!

Ohmygosh — she’s already wishing she could move out!

Five months going on 18 years.

So last week, after walking her around downstairs for an eternity and after trying to put her down 4 separate times to no avail, I just placed her in our bed for a change of scenery.

She she zonked out.



Then later that day, I did it again because I just wanted her to SLEEP!

And she did it again.

And then that night, when I was in the bed for sleep too, I let her sleep *with* me — and she did it again!

I found the cure.

And the cure was she needs to sleep in the bed with me.

Just like every professional tells you ABSOLUTELY NOT TO DO EVER NEVER EVER NO.

She’s not supposed to sleep with me for many reasons, but the main one is that there are all kinds of pillows, blankets and big humans in the bed and she may get squished or suffocate.

Pretty much my greatest fears for Alice are all in our bed.

And pretty much the only place Alice wants to be is in our bed.

So we’re on week two of Alice sleeping in our bed.

It’s the only place she will sleep.

She doesn’t care if we’re in the bed with her or not — she just wants to be in there.

Doesn’t she know it’s deadly?

Is she a crazy risk-taker?

A baby sleeping in our bed is like an adult skydiving.

She’s a skydiver!!

Seriously, I have no idea what to do.

I don’t want her to sleep in our bed every day and night, but if I put her in her crib, she screams.

We used the Ferber method (a cry-it-out method) to get Tom to go to sleep in his crib, but we didn’t do that with him this early, although she is old enough for us to try it.

But I just…don’t want my baby to cry!

But I just…don’t want my baby to steal our bed either!

Any advice, dear blog readers?

Let me know.

In the meantime, Alice and I are enjoying our rule-breaking sleep very much.


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6 Responses to Sleeping With Alice.

  1. jen says:

    Sounds like maybe the four month sleep regression? Ferberize or pick up put down… Everyone I know eventually wishes they didn’t cosleep… But if you must, they make little bed attachments you could use… But if you want to move her out, stick to your guns, mama! Or she’ll be 16 and still in your bed! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Shannon says:

    We had the same problem with our first, starting at just a month old! But a good friend, bless her, told us a trick and it worked for all four of our children-cuz they all hit this phase. Trick: put your sheet(after sleeping on it a few times) on her bed! Your bed smells like you, and of course babies want to be close to you at all times, right? What better, cozier, warmer place is there than mama’s arms? I also used a t-shirt that I wore all day-smelled like me but wasn’t dirty. I just laid it flat over my son’s sheet and laid him on top. The baby smells you so thinks she is still with you! Ta Da- Sleeping baby! Good luck!

  3. Sara says:

    Oh, mercy. We went through the SAME thing with Zoe around this age. But she was only getting in the bed with us in the wee hours of the morning. My advice would be to read the Sleep Lady’s book ASAP and get her moving back into her own bed BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE! And she’s sleeping with you until she graduates high school! Seriously. That book was very helpful for us. It’s a kinder, gentler Ferber.

  4. Lisa Grigsby says:

    OmG! I understand completely. All of the things I said ” I wil NEVER do that when I’m a mom” has come back to haunt me. Gabriella got an ear infection when she was 5months old the only place my pitiful baby girl would sleep was with me.Now 2months later she still sleeps with me at night. She will nap in her crib during the day but ar night no no no! I am def going to try the tshirt/sheet idea…love that!

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